This past fall our oldest homeschooled through high school daughter, Kiera, left for college. The process of picking schools, the application, getting a transcript together, visiting schools, the interview, and making a decision were the easiest part of transitioning to college. So many parents fear this process. I know I entered it with great trepidation.
The Fear Factor
Parents fear their transcripts won't meet the standards that government schools generate electronically. We found this process quite easy. We listed the classes our daughter took, her grades and generated a GPA for the semester and school year. A transcript accepted by every school to which she applied without question.
Parents fear their child won't be accepted to college or can't compete with those educated within the system - because they are homeschooled. Colleges covet the homeschooled applicant. Homeschooled students score higher on standardized testing (including the ACT), have higher GPAs and higher graduation rates. Read more here. Colleges and universities want students who succeed and make them look good!
They fear the interview process. We found that what is commonly feared as the school interviewing the high school graduate is actually the school wooing the prospective student.
FAFSA. Haven't we all heard horror stories about how hard it is to fill out the form to qualify for federal grants. It is apparently much easier to file the form these days. It only took hubby 30 minutes to complete and submit the form.
Parents fear the cost. College is expensive. Student loans take a long time to pay off and can be burdensome to the student and parents. Scholarships were an important factor in our choice of schools. We also learned that with a little support from scholarships offered by the schools that private schools were competitive with state funded schools.
Deciding on a college or university
Get started early! I had been collecting information about schools for years. We considered:
Our daughter's interests and academic path for her chosen field of study
The size of the school
Credentials of the professors
The professor - student ratio
Whether or not teaching assistants were used.
Graduation rate
Student supports
Extracurricular activities
Opportunities on and off campus for a well-rounded education
Cost
Religious affiliation
Distance
I polled many on their thoughts about different schools. I listened to many offer their opinions on the best schools for our daughter's career path. I also asked about religious affiliation - whether the school was only loosely affiliated or whether the school took seriously their role in forming Christian disciples.
I used the internet extensively. I checked mission statements. I looked at what each school had to offer as far as course of study. I looked at forums discussing schools. I plugged in key words that were important to us and did extensive research to narrow down our options. I ruled out many schools in this manner.
I even read many advertisements in the journals/magazines we subscribe to - journals with which we hold common beliefs. I did not rule out any resource.
We visited schools which we were interested in
To our surprise we were being recruited. We did not have to sell our child to anybody! They worked very hard to impress us with what they had to offer! We found out many things that the schools were not advertising just by listening and reading posters tacked to bulletin boards. Things and ideas that ruled out the school. Be very alert when doing college visits.
The Decision
The process which narrowed down our choices for schools was not really difficult. We took our time to discern which school would fit Kiera's needs and career path. We visited some great schools and had good experiences. After narrowing our field down from ten schools to two, and satisfying all of our criteria, it came down to distance. One school was a couple of hundred miles away and the other was more than a thousand miles from home. She ended up choosing the school closest to her family. Family support is important to the college student!
The process of finding the right school and jumping through all the hoops was the easiest part of transitioning from homeschool to college. The changes to our daily lives were more difficult. I'll just say my college student is doing better than her family. Oh, we are all adjusting but when I think back on that cute little baby and the young woman she has grown up to be, I can't help but want more of her!
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Friday, February 11, 2011
Resources - Homeschooling and Down Syndrome
When we made the decision to homeschool, it took me awhile to discover that children with Down syndrome (Ds) learn differently from typically developing children and differently from others with different intellectual disabilities. While the knowledge I gained from general resources about learning and individuals with special needs was valuable to a certain degree, it wasn't until I discovered just how important specificity is as it relates to the unique learning needs of children with Ds are in creating an optimal learning environment.
Children with Ds have unique learning challenges which researchers have called a typical learning profile. So, what works for homeschooling families with typically developing children and those dealing with other types of special needs generally will not work for our children without significant adaptations to the material.
To create a more optimal learning environment, we need an understanding of the specific learning profile, which targets the child's strengths and weaknesses, and develop targeted interventions for learning success. In our children with Ds it means teaching to their strengths and understanding how their weaknesses impact learning.
Here are some of the many resources available:
Websites
These two websites have been the most valuable to me over the years. They provide up-to-date research into the way our children with Ds learn. It takes a very long time for research to appear in books intended for parents, teachers and service providers.
The Riverbend Down Syndrome Association
A wealth of information about how children with Ds learn and a homeschooling folder.
The Down Syndrome Educational Trust
Publishes research about Down syndrome from around the world.
Books and other Materials
Down Syndrome Issues and Information
Effective Teaching Strategies for Successful Inclusion: A Focus on Down Syndrome, published by the PREP Program
The Source for Down Syndrome Written by Catherine I. Chamberlain & Robin M. Strode
From Woodbine House:
Early Communications Skills for Children with Down Syndrome by Libby Kumin, Ph.D.
Classroom Language Skills for Children with Down Syndrome by Libby Kumin, Ph.D.
Helping Children with Down Syndrome Comminicate Better by Libby Kumin, Ph.D., CCC-SLP (ages 6-14)
Gross Motor Skills in Children with Down Syndrome by Patricia C. Winders, P.T
Fine Motor Skills for Children with Down Syndrome by Maryanne Bruni, BScOT
Teaching Math to People with Down Syndrome and Other Hands-On Learners by DeAnna Horstmeier, Ph.D. Book 1 and Book 2
Teaching Reading to Children with Down Syndrome by Patrica Oelwein
Mental Wellness in Adults with Down Syndrome by Dennis McGuire, Ph.D. & Brian Chicoine, M.D. (not just about adults)
My ebook Homeschooling Children with Down Syndrome compiles much of the information and research available - one stop shopping and it's free!
The books above are a great entry into the world of homeschooling and Down syndrome. These books speak to the syndrome and characteristics/traits commonly found in individuals with Ds and provide much valuable information presented in an understandable fashion. They provide a wealth of information and take the mystery out of therapies.
Children with Ds have unique learning challenges which researchers have called a typical learning profile. So, what works for homeschooling families with typically developing children and those dealing with other types of special needs generally will not work for our children without significant adaptations to the material.
To create a more optimal learning environment, we need an understanding of the specific learning profile, which targets the child's strengths and weaknesses, and develop targeted interventions for learning success. In our children with Ds it means teaching to their strengths and understanding how their weaknesses impact learning.
Here are some of the many resources available:
Websites
These two websites have been the most valuable to me over the years. They provide up-to-date research into the way our children with Ds learn. It takes a very long time for research to appear in books intended for parents, teachers and service providers.
The Riverbend Down Syndrome Association
A wealth of information about how children with Ds learn and a homeschooling folder.
The Down Syndrome Educational Trust
Publishes research about Down syndrome from around the world.
Books and other Materials
Down Syndrome Issues and Information
Effective Teaching Strategies for Successful Inclusion: A Focus on Down Syndrome, published by the PREP Program
The Source for Down Syndrome Written by Catherine I. Chamberlain & Robin M. Strode
From Woodbine House:
Early Communications Skills for Children with Down Syndrome by Libby Kumin, Ph.D.
Classroom Language Skills for Children with Down Syndrome by Libby Kumin, Ph.D.
Helping Children with Down Syndrome Comminicate Better by Libby Kumin, Ph.D., CCC-SLP (ages 6-14)
Gross Motor Skills in Children with Down Syndrome by Patricia C. Winders, P.T
Fine Motor Skills for Children with Down Syndrome by Maryanne Bruni, BScOT
Teaching Math to People with Down Syndrome and Other Hands-On Learners by DeAnna Horstmeier, Ph.D. Book 1 and Book 2
Teaching Reading to Children with Down Syndrome by Patrica Oelwein
Mental Wellness in Adults with Down Syndrome by Dennis McGuire, Ph.D. & Brian Chicoine, M.D. (not just about adults)
My ebook Homeschooling Children with Down Syndrome compiles much of the information and research available - one stop shopping and it's free!
The books above are a great entry into the world of homeschooling and Down syndrome. These books speak to the syndrome and characteristics/traits commonly found in individuals with Ds and provide much valuable information presented in an understandable fashion. They provide a wealth of information and take the mystery out of therapies.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
General Resources - Homeschooling Children with Special Needs
I was putting this list of resources together for my local homeschooling association this week. Memories came flooding back to the time where I really didn't understand how unique Reagan's needs were. So, in the beginning of our journey,I read everything I could about education and homeschooling children with special needs. In those early days I frequently used NATHHAN's lending library to check out books by mail. That lending library is closed now for reorganization.
I also used our local library to learn about how children with special needs learn. The inter-library loan system brought me many books that were not available locally. I've also purchased many books over the years that helped answer questions about our learners with special needs that were more complex. I felt it was important to understand what I was doing vs. trying to implement a home program that would not lead to an environment conducive to learning or meet my daughter's needs.
This list is from my own personal library:
General Resources for Homeschooling Children with Special Needs
Home Schooling Children with Special Needs, by Sharon C. Hensley
Homeschooling Your Struggling Learner, by Kathy Kuhl
The Way They Learn, Cynthia Ulrich Tobias
Learning to Learn, Carolyn Oliver & Rosemary F. Bowler
Steps to Independence, by Bruce L. Baker and Alan J. Brightman
Road to Independence, Independence Skills Training for Special Needs Children, by Brenda M. Batts
Choosing & Using Curriculum for Your Special Child, by Joyce Herzog
Learning in Spite of Labels, by Joyce Herzog
Strategies for Struggling Learners, by Joe & Connie Sutton
Christian Homes and Special Kids, by Sherry Bushnell and Diane Ryckman
The Child with Special Needs by Stanley I Greenspan, MD & Serena Wieder, Ph.D.
Helping Children Overcome Learning Difficulties by Jerome Rosner
Helps for Special Education Teachers, by Eileen Shaum
Literacy Skill Development for Students with Special Learning Needs by Leslie Broun & Patricia Oelwein
Of course, after I learned just how unique learners with Down syndrome are, I had to start on a whole new course of study on how children with Down syndrome learn. What I learned from the books above was/is quite worthwhile as I progressed to the mentoring stage of my journey. I find I'm always learning as I go and am overjoyed that there is always something more to explore!
Are there important resources that I have overlooked? I'd love to hear what has helped you most!
I also used our local library to learn about how children with special needs learn. The inter-library loan system brought me many books that were not available locally. I've also purchased many books over the years that helped answer questions about our learners with special needs that were more complex. I felt it was important to understand what I was doing vs. trying to implement a home program that would not lead to an environment conducive to learning or meet my daughter's needs.
This list is from my own personal library:
General Resources for Homeschooling Children with Special Needs
Home Schooling Children with Special Needs, by Sharon C. Hensley
Homeschooling Your Struggling Learner, by Kathy Kuhl
The Way They Learn, Cynthia Ulrich Tobias
Learning to Learn, Carolyn Oliver & Rosemary F. Bowler
Steps to Independence, by Bruce L. Baker and Alan J. Brightman
Road to Independence, Independence Skills Training for Special Needs Children, by Brenda M. Batts
Choosing & Using Curriculum for Your Special Child, by Joyce Herzog
Learning in Spite of Labels, by Joyce Herzog
Strategies for Struggling Learners, by Joe & Connie Sutton
Christian Homes and Special Kids, by Sherry Bushnell and Diane Ryckman
The Child with Special Needs by Stanley I Greenspan, MD & Serena Wieder, Ph.D.
Helping Children Overcome Learning Difficulties by Jerome Rosner
Helps for Special Education Teachers, by Eileen Shaum
Literacy Skill Development for Students with Special Learning Needs by Leslie Broun & Patricia Oelwein
Of course, after I learned just how unique learners with Down syndrome are, I had to start on a whole new course of study on how children with Down syndrome learn. What I learned from the books above was/is quite worthwhile as I progressed to the mentoring stage of my journey. I find I'm always learning as I go and am overjoyed that there is always something more to explore!
Are there important resources that I have overlooked? I'd love to hear what has helped you most!
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Uninspired - AKA Homeschool Burnout
A repost from 2010 because it is that time of year...
A place I know very well. Late January and February bring me to this place where I feel totally uninspired – also known as burnout. I know I’m not alone. Many homeschooling moms experience a sense of burnout this time of year.
What is homeschool burnout?
Perhaps life is not quite so enjoyable. In fact, you might find all your emotions rather muted. Irritability is common. Also feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, discouraged or possibly even depressed. Symptoms will vary with each individual. The key is to be aware of the likelihood of its occurrence before it impacts the family and your homeschool.
What contributes to this sense of burnout?
For us northerners who face shorter, cloudy days, bitter cold, ice and snow, the weather plays a big part in our feelings of isolation from others. It is just a reality that social gatherings and field trips decrease because of the weather.
We’ve got half of the school year under our belts. Most of the homeschooling moms I know see this time as a time that we question what we have chosen to do with our children. We question our goals and the effectiveness our role as homeschooling mothers. We question the effectiveness of our choices. We ask ourselves questions and ruminate beyond the necessary and useful point. Are we doing enough? Are we meeting our goals? Do we need to make changes?
Most homeschooling mothers have high expectations for themselves. They often find there is never enough time in the day for all they want to accomplish – with school, parenting, discipline, laundry, cooking, cleaning etc. Homeschooling is a very task-oriented lifestyle lending itself to burnout.
Homeschooling Children with Special Needs
Taking the responsibility for homeschooling a child with special needs may intensify our feelings of burnout. After all, this is a huge responsibility – our efforts will impact our child's future functional competence. We don’t have a system to rely on or blame.
We often find ourselves comparing out children with others with a similar diagnosis in our own community whether it be in our homeschooling community or perhaps even a child in the school system. Are they doing better? Did I make the right choice? Would my child be better off in the system with all its supports?
Burnout - What can we do?
Burnout is a nasty place to be. The remedies:
1. Anticipate burnout.
Burnout is common in homeschooling moms. Anticipate it and you’ve almost won the battle!
2. Take a good look at your priorities.
Be sure that you are in fact keeping them in the right order.
-Am I spending enough time with God in prayer and with His Word?
-Am I giving enough time to my husband? In giving you will receive.
-Are my children’s basic and educational needs being met?
3. After reassessing priorities, choose carefully where you get involved outside the home.
It is common for others to think just because you homeschool you are available to meet their needs and the needs of the community during school hours. Practice saying no or I'm sorry I just can't do it -- without explanations.
4. Quit second guessing God.
Most of us who are called to homeschool are led there by a loving Father. If He leads us here, He will provide all that we need to accomplish His goals for us and our family.
5. Remember why you homeschool.
Keep your goals for your children close and in the proper perspective. Are you homeschooling to instill proper morals and values? Are you homeschooling because you believe you and your family are contributing to the need for more strong soldiers for Christ? Do you think you can provide a better education for your children than the system can provide? Do you have a child with special needs who thrives in your homeschool environment? Worthy goals - keep your eye on the prize! I've graduated one well-rounded young lady who, with her natural gifts, will contribute greatly where ever she is planted. It was worth every second!
6. Take good care of you.
I cannot stress enough how important it is to take care of yourself. Eat right, exercise and get proper sleep. Your world will be a better place.
7. Don’t compare your children
Don't compare them with each other, family members or those in the community - especially if they have special needs. This is probably one of THE most destructive thing any parent can do. Compare them only to themselves. Are they working towards goals that are reasonable and obtainable? Are they making progress? Sometimes it is essential to look at the baby steps they might be taking toward a long sought after goal to find success. Find it and celebrate it!
8. Work at changing your thought patterns.
-If you are often finding yourself discouraged and down, try to focus on your blessings. Are you children healthy, clean, fed – physically, emotionally spiritually ready for learning? If that is the case, then learning will occur. They may not learn all that is on your agenda for the day but they will be open to the experiences and opportunities provided.
-Wake up with a thankful heart. Thank God for the opportunities that He will place before you as the day unfolds.
-Pray for your children and ask God to bless your day together.
-Thank God for them and the joy they bring – even when they are bickering.
-Verbalize all you find in the day to be thankful for. Soon you will find your children doing the same and the joy is multiplied!
9. Learn to live with dust bunnies.
One of the hardest things for me as a homeschooling mom was letting go of my need for a clean, tidy house all the time. I am a recovering neat freak. I am a recovering neat freak living with people who don’t see what the fuss is about. They are right of course.
10. Schedule flexibility.
That's right - if you are the obsessive-compulsive type like me who has a daily schedule, put a little flexibility in your schedule. Leave time for spontaneity and discover the joys!
11. Delight in the little things.
A cup of hot tea or hot chocolate with instructions that mama is taking a few minutes of time out and take it. My homeschooling friend, Amy, puts on her red tennis shoes every morning because they bring her a sense of delight – every day.
12. Make time for the things you enjoy and that refresh you.
Whether it be a good book or a hobby - do it.
13. Make a list of things to look forward to
-Schedule a date night with hubby – even if it has to be in your own home.
-How about a game night with the kids?
-An occasional mom’s night out with friends. Real life friends are important.
-A special dinner once a week with all your favorite foods.
14. Make a list of projects to take on.
I usually have a winter project because we spend more time at home. Even if it is just a closet or a few drawers, it is something outside the daily routine. It makes me feel productive in a different way. Involve the kids and it will be more fun! I don’t know if the kids will find my winter project fun – stripping the kitchen wall paper – but you never know.
15. Explore curriculum choices.
Most of us have homeschooling conventions on the horizon. Take the time to get excited about next year, investigate new options/curriculum choices and make plans on where you want to spend your time in the vendor hall.
16. Seek out the homeschooling community on the internet for support.
There are so many wonderful places to find support on the internet - way to many to list but you might try The Swap, The Homeschool Lounge, Heart of the Matter Online, The Homeschool Village, or the The Christian Homeschool Hub when you can't meet with your local homeschoolers for support and fellowship. I doubt you can find a homeschooler that has not experienced burnout. Let others share their ideas to get through this season.
Alas, I’m feeling inspired once again. I'm off to work through the list!
A place I know very well. Late January and February bring me to this place where I feel totally uninspired – also known as burnout. I know I’m not alone. Many homeschooling moms experience a sense of burnout this time of year.
What is homeschool burnout?
Perhaps life is not quite so enjoyable. In fact, you might find all your emotions rather muted. Irritability is common. Also feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, discouraged or possibly even depressed. Symptoms will vary with each individual. The key is to be aware of the likelihood of its occurrence before it impacts the family and your homeschool.
What contributes to this sense of burnout?
For us northerners who face shorter, cloudy days, bitter cold, ice and snow, the weather plays a big part in our feelings of isolation from others. It is just a reality that social gatherings and field trips decrease because of the weather.
We’ve got half of the school year under our belts. Most of the homeschooling moms I know see this time as a time that we question what we have chosen to do with our children. We question our goals and the effectiveness our role as homeschooling mothers. We question the effectiveness of our choices. We ask ourselves questions and ruminate beyond the necessary and useful point. Are we doing enough? Are we meeting our goals? Do we need to make changes?
Most homeschooling mothers have high expectations for themselves. They often find there is never enough time in the day for all they want to accomplish – with school, parenting, discipline, laundry, cooking, cleaning etc. Homeschooling is a very task-oriented lifestyle lending itself to burnout.
Homeschooling Children with Special Needs
Taking the responsibility for homeschooling a child with special needs may intensify our feelings of burnout. After all, this is a huge responsibility – our efforts will impact our child's future functional competence. We don’t have a system to rely on or blame.
We often find ourselves comparing out children with others with a similar diagnosis in our own community whether it be in our homeschooling community or perhaps even a child in the school system. Are they doing better? Did I make the right choice? Would my child be better off in the system with all its supports?
Burnout - What can we do?
Burnout is a nasty place to be. The remedies:
1. Anticipate burnout.
Burnout is common in homeschooling moms. Anticipate it and you’ve almost won the battle!
2. Take a good look at your priorities.
Be sure that you are in fact keeping them in the right order.
-Am I spending enough time with God in prayer and with His Word?
-Am I giving enough time to my husband? In giving you will receive.
-Are my children’s basic and educational needs being met?
3. After reassessing priorities, choose carefully where you get involved outside the home.
It is common for others to think just because you homeschool you are available to meet their needs and the needs of the community during school hours. Practice saying no or I'm sorry I just can't do it -- without explanations.
4. Quit second guessing God.
Most of us who are called to homeschool are led there by a loving Father. If He leads us here, He will provide all that we need to accomplish His goals for us and our family.
5. Remember why you homeschool.
Keep your goals for your children close and in the proper perspective. Are you homeschooling to instill proper morals and values? Are you homeschooling because you believe you and your family are contributing to the need for more strong soldiers for Christ? Do you think you can provide a better education for your children than the system can provide? Do you have a child with special needs who thrives in your homeschool environment? Worthy goals - keep your eye on the prize! I've graduated one well-rounded young lady who, with her natural gifts, will contribute greatly where ever she is planted. It was worth every second!
6. Take good care of you.
I cannot stress enough how important it is to take care of yourself. Eat right, exercise and get proper sleep. Your world will be a better place.
7. Don’t compare your children
Don't compare them with each other, family members or those in the community - especially if they have special needs. This is probably one of THE most destructive thing any parent can do. Compare them only to themselves. Are they working towards goals that are reasonable and obtainable? Are they making progress? Sometimes it is essential to look at the baby steps they might be taking toward a long sought after goal to find success. Find it and celebrate it!
8. Work at changing your thought patterns.
-If you are often finding yourself discouraged and down, try to focus on your blessings. Are you children healthy, clean, fed – physically, emotionally spiritually ready for learning? If that is the case, then learning will occur. They may not learn all that is on your agenda for the day but they will be open to the experiences and opportunities provided.
-Wake up with a thankful heart. Thank God for the opportunities that He will place before you as the day unfolds.
-Pray for your children and ask God to bless your day together.
-Thank God for them and the joy they bring – even when they are bickering.
-Verbalize all you find in the day to be thankful for. Soon you will find your children doing the same and the joy is multiplied!
9. Learn to live with dust bunnies.
One of the hardest things for me as a homeschooling mom was letting go of my need for a clean, tidy house all the time. I am a recovering neat freak. I am a recovering neat freak living with people who don’t see what the fuss is about. They are right of course.
10. Schedule flexibility.
That's right - if you are the obsessive-compulsive type like me who has a daily schedule, put a little flexibility in your schedule. Leave time for spontaneity and discover the joys!
11. Delight in the little things.
A cup of hot tea or hot chocolate with instructions that mama is taking a few minutes of time out and take it. My homeschooling friend, Amy, puts on her red tennis shoes every morning because they bring her a sense of delight – every day.
12. Make time for the things you enjoy and that refresh you.
Whether it be a good book or a hobby - do it.
13. Make a list of things to look forward to
-Schedule a date night with hubby – even if it has to be in your own home.
-How about a game night with the kids?
-An occasional mom’s night out with friends. Real life friends are important.
-A special dinner once a week with all your favorite foods.
14. Make a list of projects to take on.
I usually have a winter project because we spend more time at home. Even if it is just a closet or a few drawers, it is something outside the daily routine. It makes me feel productive in a different way. Involve the kids and it will be more fun! I don’t know if the kids will find my winter project fun – stripping the kitchen wall paper – but you never know.
15. Explore curriculum choices.
Most of us have homeschooling conventions on the horizon. Take the time to get excited about next year, investigate new options/curriculum choices and make plans on where you want to spend your time in the vendor hall.
16. Seek out the homeschooling community on the internet for support.
There are so many wonderful places to find support on the internet - way to many to list but you might try The Swap, The Homeschool Lounge, Heart of the Matter Online, The Homeschool Village, or the The Christian Homeschool Hub when you can't meet with your local homeschoolers for support and fellowship. I doubt you can find a homeschooler that has not experienced burnout. Let others share their ideas to get through this season.
Alas, I’m feeling inspired once again. I'm off to work through the list!
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Homeschooling Children with Special Needs - Local Support Groups
Most of us who make the decision to homeschool our children with special needs belong to online support groups. We find valuable support and information from those who have walked a similar path before us. We find out what has worked (or not worked) for others related to our child’s specific diagnosis. Quite often, others will cheer our successes and offer sincere empathy as we struggle.
Often times, we find ourselves isolated in garnering support as we struggle to learn how to best approach meeting the needs of our child with special needs.. Just mom cozying up to the pc can be very lonely. Smiley faces and cyberhugs can only go so far
Creating or joining a local support group with others who homeschool their child/children with special needs can fulfill many needs – in our own lives and the lives of those on a similar journey:
So, what does it take to start a support group for those homeschooling children with special needs?
A call to ministry for a few moms. I think it might be difficult to shoulder the responsibilities involved in creating such a group by any one individual. At the very least, 2-3 moms (and/or dads) should be involved.
Prayer support for those called to leadership. We are all busy educating and nurturing our families. Those who are called to leadership do more than just showing up. Ask others to pray for you.
Advertise in your local homeschooling associations newsletter and e-mail groups. There are others out there traveling a similar path. You don’t have to do this alone.
Have a location – preferably not in a member’s home. A church hall or local eatery should work. We don’t want any of the parents to stress about a meeting in their home that is supposed to be a stress reliever.
Decide how frequently you would like to meet. Is monthly too often? Is every other month not enough? I think you will find people rotating in and out depending on their family schedule and babysitting availability.
Decide on a purpose for the group. Is it a casual meeting with no agenda and focused on fellowship? Is there a general topic (ie. sensory issues) for each meeting? Could one member share their journey and then take questions? Don’t forget to ask fellow parents what they would like to learn about and what their needs are – brainstorm! Even when the group deals with a wide variety of special needs, there is much common ground for fruitful discussion and mutual support.
Jump on in and make it happen!
I am not an expert on forming support groups. No references to turn to – only a tiny bit of experience. Our local homeschooling group for families with special needs is still in its infancy – about a year and a half old. We are learning as we go, providing as we can.
Care to share what has worked or not worked for you local homeschooling children with special needs support group? I would love to hear from you!
Often times, we find ourselves isolated in garnering support as we struggle to learn how to best approach meeting the needs of our child with special needs.. Just mom cozying up to the pc can be very lonely. Smiley faces and cyberhugs can only go so far
Creating or joining a local support group with others who homeschool their child/children with special needs can fulfill many needs – in our own lives and the lives of those on a similar journey:
Participating in such a group can improve our homeschooling environment. A teaching parent who is supported in real life is a better parent and teacher.
Occasional time away from our loved ones in a relaxing environment is good for our mental health. Twenty-four hours a day of parenting, caring for out children and spouse, homeschooling, dealing with special needs, cleaning and cooking can be draining without an occasional refreshment of socializing with other parents who understand.
The insights of others further along the path are invaluable.
Sharing the burdens and the joys lightens our load.
Prayer (and other) support immediately available.
Sharing resources in a group setting is often helpful and can save money.
New friends! Some parents with children with special needs find their friends have fallen away as they deal with those special needs. Friendships are essential and perhaps easier to maintain with those who want to understand or do understand our journey.
So, what does it take to start a support group for those homeschooling children with special needs?
A call to ministry for a few moms. I think it might be difficult to shoulder the responsibilities involved in creating such a group by any one individual. At the very least, 2-3 moms (and/or dads) should be involved.
Prayer support for those called to leadership. We are all busy educating and nurturing our families. Those who are called to leadership do more than just showing up. Ask others to pray for you.
Advertise in your local homeschooling associations newsletter and e-mail groups. There are others out there traveling a similar path. You don’t have to do this alone.
Have a location – preferably not in a member’s home. A church hall or local eatery should work. We don’t want any of the parents to stress about a meeting in their home that is supposed to be a stress reliever.
Decide how frequently you would like to meet. Is monthly too often? Is every other month not enough? I think you will find people rotating in and out depending on their family schedule and babysitting availability.
Decide on a purpose for the group. Is it a casual meeting with no agenda and focused on fellowship? Is there a general topic (ie. sensory issues) for each meeting? Could one member share their journey and then take questions? Don’t forget to ask fellow parents what they would like to learn about and what their needs are – brainstorm! Even when the group deals with a wide variety of special needs, there is much common ground for fruitful discussion and mutual support.
Jump on in and make it happen!
I am not an expert on forming support groups. No references to turn to – only a tiny bit of experience. Our local homeschooling group for families with special needs is still in its infancy – about a year and a half old. We are learning as we go, providing as we can.
Care to share what has worked or not worked for you local homeschooling children with special needs support group? I would love to hear from you!
Monday, February 7, 2011
Homeschooling through High School
So many parents feel unqualified and uncertain about homeschooling their children through high school. They will often put their children into the system to feel more satisfied that their children are well-prepared for college, to have an official transcript and an official diploma. Many parents put their children into the system for sports opportunities. Some put their children into the system for life’s lessons to be learned in a group setting – such as learning to deal with peer pressure, getting along with same-age peers, or “real” classroom experience.
Parents do what they feel is best for their child and their family. I have a tremendous respect for those decisions. Parenting is the most difficult job I've known and I have had some very difficult jobs. Saving lives in the ER as a nurse has nothing on raising up children!
To encourage those who have discerned for their child and family that keeping their child home for high school is what is best for them, I thought I would share our daughter’s experience.
There is hardly a week that passes that my homeschooled through high school graduate, Kiera, doesn’t thank me for keeping her home for her K-12 education. She supplies me with so many reasons why she is grateful...I find myself grateful too.
Good, quality education. Kiera feels she got a great education from a Christian perspective. It is quite apparent, now that she is in college, that she was well-prepared for college. She did well on the college entrance exam. She is making the Dean’s list at school which says so much about how well she was prepared.
Life-long love of learning. Kiera still loves to learn. As she was finishing our homeschool high school, she took a few courses at our local community college. What struck her most there about the environment and students was the apathy apparent everywhere. No one was excited about what was being offered to them. They sat there like rocks without contributing or asking questions.
Kiera is excited about the world of academics and all the opportunities that come with the college environment. Her professors enjoy her because she is curious and contributes in the classroom. This young adult learns and has fun!
Self-discipline. As soon as Kiera reached the stage of reading to learn (about 4th grade if I remember right) she began to assume more responsibility for her education. By the time she got to the high school years, my role had greatly diminished. Now in college, she has all the responsibility and is handling it well.
Organization and focus. Her room is a mess but her schedule is not. She maps out her week – what needs to be read, written and studied for and sticks to the schedule. A life skill that is invaluable and learned as a lifestyle at home. Kiera is greatly focused on her goals and the path she must take to reach them
Self-actualization. In the system, children spend most of their primary and secondary education doing what others tell them to do and be. Kiera knows who she is and what she is capable of doing. She delights in being a child of God, seeking His will in her life and being obedient to Him.
Family. Kiera feels so blessed to have so much family time. Not only with her immediate family but with extended family as well. Our homeschooling lifestyle lends itself to building and staying close with those who live far away. If she had been required to stick to a structured school year, she would hardly know her grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. She knows a depth of family experience that few know today because of the nature of our mobile society.
Social Skills. Homeschooled children are well-known for their ability to talk to people of all ages – not just individuals their own age. This ability has taken Kiera to many places she would not know otherwise and relationships that have been quite valuable throughout her life would not have been accessible without her wonderful social skills.
Life Skills. Kiera is very pleased with her ability to cook, clean, care for her sibling etc. I think when it is time for her to manage her own home, she will be able to function quite well.
Time and balance. As a homeschooled student, Kiera began her day at 6:00-6:30 a.m. and finished was finished with her daily work before noon. There was no homework that went unfinished before she finished her daily work. The rest of her day was hers to do with as she pleased. Time filled with contributions to our home and family life, volunteer work, books, creative writing, hobbies and friends. There were no long evenings laboring over school work. She learned to structure her work time as well as her free time. She has been given a model that will lead to a healthy, balanced, enjoyable lifestyle as an adult and to pattern her own family’s lifestyle after when the time comes.
Well-rounded person with a wide variety of interests. Because of our homeschooling lifestyle, Kiera has had the time to explore a wide variety of interests leading to a well-rounded individual. Her interests have not been influenced by the popular culture but are what she has truly finds interesting. We have had many opportunities, because of the nature of homeschooling, to travel and explore the world – experiences she may have not known if we had to stick to a structured school year.
If you are called to keep your child at home through high school, there is no need to fear. If God leads you there, He will provide what you need to get the job done to fulfill His will for your child and family. A leap of faith for many, but many are the positive outcomes.
You may wonder if Kiera wants to homeschool her own children when the time comes. I think that is the ultimate question that displays how the individual views their own homeschooling experience.
Feel free to ask her. I must say, it is so good to know that my investment in this child has been received with such a grateful heart.
Parents do what they feel is best for their child and their family. I have a tremendous respect for those decisions. Parenting is the most difficult job I've known and I have had some very difficult jobs. Saving lives in the ER as a nurse has nothing on raising up children!
To encourage those who have discerned for their child and family that keeping their child home for high school is what is best for them, I thought I would share our daughter’s experience.
There is hardly a week that passes that my homeschooled through high school graduate, Kiera, doesn’t thank me for keeping her home for her K-12 education. She supplies me with so many reasons why she is grateful...I find myself grateful too.
Good, quality education. Kiera feels she got a great education from a Christian perspective. It is quite apparent, now that she is in college, that she was well-prepared for college. She did well on the college entrance exam. She is making the Dean’s list at school which says so much about how well she was prepared.
Life-long love of learning. Kiera still loves to learn. As she was finishing our homeschool high school, she took a few courses at our local community college. What struck her most there about the environment and students was the apathy apparent everywhere. No one was excited about what was being offered to them. They sat there like rocks without contributing or asking questions.
Kiera is excited about the world of academics and all the opportunities that come with the college environment. Her professors enjoy her because she is curious and contributes in the classroom. This young adult learns and has fun!
Self-discipline. As soon as Kiera reached the stage of reading to learn (about 4th grade if I remember right) she began to assume more responsibility for her education. By the time she got to the high school years, my role had greatly diminished. Now in college, she has all the responsibility and is handling it well.
Organization and focus. Her room is a mess but her schedule is not. She maps out her week – what needs to be read, written and studied for and sticks to the schedule. A life skill that is invaluable and learned as a lifestyle at home. Kiera is greatly focused on her goals and the path she must take to reach them
Self-actualization. In the system, children spend most of their primary and secondary education doing what others tell them to do and be. Kiera knows who she is and what she is capable of doing. She delights in being a child of God, seeking His will in her life and being obedient to Him.
Family. Kiera feels so blessed to have so much family time. Not only with her immediate family but with extended family as well. Our homeschooling lifestyle lends itself to building and staying close with those who live far away. If she had been required to stick to a structured school year, she would hardly know her grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. She knows a depth of family experience that few know today because of the nature of our mobile society.
Social Skills. Homeschooled children are well-known for their ability to talk to people of all ages – not just individuals their own age. This ability has taken Kiera to many places she would not know otherwise and relationships that have been quite valuable throughout her life would not have been accessible without her wonderful social skills.
Life Skills. Kiera is very pleased with her ability to cook, clean, care for her sibling etc. I think when it is time for her to manage her own home, she will be able to function quite well.
Time and balance. As a homeschooled student, Kiera began her day at 6:00-6:30 a.m. and finished was finished with her daily work before noon. There was no homework that went unfinished before she finished her daily work. The rest of her day was hers to do with as she pleased. Time filled with contributions to our home and family life, volunteer work, books, creative writing, hobbies and friends. There were no long evenings laboring over school work. She learned to structure her work time as well as her free time. She has been given a model that will lead to a healthy, balanced, enjoyable lifestyle as an adult and to pattern her own family’s lifestyle after when the time comes.
Well-rounded person with a wide variety of interests. Because of our homeschooling lifestyle, Kiera has had the time to explore a wide variety of interests leading to a well-rounded individual. Her interests have not been influenced by the popular culture but are what she has truly finds interesting. We have had many opportunities, because of the nature of homeschooling, to travel and explore the world – experiences she may have not known if we had to stick to a structured school year.
If you are called to keep your child at home through high school, there is no need to fear. If God leads you there, He will provide what you need to get the job done to fulfill His will for your child and family. A leap of faith for many, but many are the positive outcomes.
You may wonder if Kiera wants to homeschool her own children when the time comes. I think that is the ultimate question that displays how the individual views their own homeschooling experience.
Feel free to ask her. I must say, it is so good to know that my investment in this child has been received with such a grateful heart.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
My Sabbatical from Blogging...
Is it over? How do you return from 9 months without making a post with significant content? I guess you just jump right in...
I think putting together my ebook, Homeschooling Children with Down Syndrome met a personal goal of mine - to share what I have learned on this journey. It has been my ministry for over a decade to share and mentor others on a similar path. I know there is much more to come on this journey. More that isn't shared freely in the blogosphere. There are very few bloggers with teens or adults with Down syndrome sharing their journeys.
Over the last 9 months we have traveled extensively and met many wonderful people. Reagan has a way of attracting the most incredible people into our lives. She exudes an unconditional love for others - she blesses and we are all blessed. She has matured so much in the last year. She is quite independent and even a little sassy. I have to say her adolescence has been fairly easy but then both of my girls have been easy as far as our relationships go. The closeness we enjoy as a homeschooling family and the mutual respect for each other made what are usually difficult times in a family just an age and a stage.
In the fall, my oldest left for college. Kiera is attending a small Christian school near Chicago as a biology major. She has adjusted quite well to life at college - even made the Dean's list! I am so proud of this young lady! Homeschooled through high school and a success in the competitive world of college!
Reagan misses her sister dearly. As hard as it is for me to let go, it has been much more difficult for Reagan. The tears still flow freely and frequently - she knows things will never be the same...
Our local homeschooling children with special needs support group. Special Needs, Unique Challenges, has become more active. We have been trying to meet monthly for a mom's night out this school year. The weather has interfered greatly this winter though. We have had the snowiest winter I can recall!
We are serving two small rural churches. Our parish families have blessed us immensely. Until now, I had not known a parish family so united in their love for the Lord that it is almost palpable. The serve the Lord and each other...and love my family. Here, we do not just go to church - we belong. If you have a child with special needs, you know how rare this is!
We have a new Bishop with exciting plans for the future. While our buildings and property are being threatened with lawsuits from The Episcopal Church, our Bishop has a vision for our future. A future where buildings and property are only things. The mission of the church will continue on without those things if necessary.
I have been named Diocesan Coordinator for those with special needs. A coordinator grows ministry within our Diocese. I am busy at work trying to define this new ministry and set goals for our team. It is a very exciting time for me. At times, anxiety creeps in. Am I the right person for this job? Do I have the skills to grow this ministry? Do I have the time and energy? But then I remember - God doesn't call the equipped, He equips those who are called!
Reagan will have surgery soon. She will have a new pacemaker put in. This pacemaker will pace both her ventricles - an added safety measure since she has no underlying heart rhythm. Complete heart block was a complication from her original open heart surgery, repair of AVSD, as an infant.
A brief update on a snowy day. My life is much fuller than I can describe in this space. Blizzard warning here - expecting 20 inches of snow with white-out conditions. I don't expect to be plowed out until Friday. Really. And I don't mind. I have a well-stocked pantry and freezer. The generator has had a recent tune-up. I have a pile of books waiting for me along with a nice warm blanket.
So, let the snow fall and the wind blow. I'm going to enjoy this day!
I think putting together my ebook, Homeschooling Children with Down Syndrome met a personal goal of mine - to share what I have learned on this journey. It has been my ministry for over a decade to share and mentor others on a similar path. I know there is much more to come on this journey. More that isn't shared freely in the blogosphere. There are very few bloggers with teens or adults with Down syndrome sharing their journeys.
Over the last 9 months we have traveled extensively and met many wonderful people. Reagan has a way of attracting the most incredible people into our lives. She exudes an unconditional love for others - she blesses and we are all blessed. She has matured so much in the last year. She is quite independent and even a little sassy. I have to say her adolescence has been fairly easy but then both of my girls have been easy as far as our relationships go. The closeness we enjoy as a homeschooling family and the mutual respect for each other made what are usually difficult times in a family just an age and a stage.
In the fall, my oldest left for college. Kiera is attending a small Christian school near Chicago as a biology major. She has adjusted quite well to life at college - even made the Dean's list! I am so proud of this young lady! Homeschooled through high school and a success in the competitive world of college!
Reagan misses her sister dearly. As hard as it is for me to let go, it has been much more difficult for Reagan. The tears still flow freely and frequently - she knows things will never be the same...
Our local homeschooling children with special needs support group. Special Needs, Unique Challenges, has become more active. We have been trying to meet monthly for a mom's night out this school year. The weather has interfered greatly this winter though. We have had the snowiest winter I can recall!
We are serving two small rural churches. Our parish families have blessed us immensely. Until now, I had not known a parish family so united in their love for the Lord that it is almost palpable. The serve the Lord and each other...and love my family. Here, we do not just go to church - we belong. If you have a child with special needs, you know how rare this is!
We have a new Bishop with exciting plans for the future. While our buildings and property are being threatened with lawsuits from The Episcopal Church, our Bishop has a vision for our future. A future where buildings and property are only things. The mission of the church will continue on without those things if necessary.
I have been named Diocesan Coordinator for those with special needs. A coordinator grows ministry within our Diocese. I am busy at work trying to define this new ministry and set goals for our team. It is a very exciting time for me. At times, anxiety creeps in. Am I the right person for this job? Do I have the skills to grow this ministry? Do I have the time and energy? But then I remember - God doesn't call the equipped, He equips those who are called!
Reagan will have surgery soon. She will have a new pacemaker put in. This pacemaker will pace both her ventricles - an added safety measure since she has no underlying heart rhythm. Complete heart block was a complication from her original open heart surgery, repair of AVSD, as an infant.
A brief update on a snowy day. My life is much fuller than I can describe in this space. Blizzard warning here - expecting 20 inches of snow with white-out conditions. I don't expect to be plowed out until Friday. Really. And I don't mind. I have a well-stocked pantry and freezer. The generator has had a recent tune-up. I have a pile of books waiting for me along with a nice warm blanket.
So, let the snow fall and the wind blow. I'm going to enjoy this day!
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